Hello, I just turned 40 and am thinking of having a second child, but apprehensive due to my age. Would love to hear form women who had children after 40.
Thanks!
You are not old.
You can still have a baby!
I was 42 when I had my 2nd child. It was planned, we got preggers naturally. I had no problems what so ever during the pregnancy.
My friend, was 47 when she had her 2nd child.
It's really do-able.
Just check with your OB/GYN. They see "older" pregnant Moms all the time. And of course, talk with your Hubby about it.
All the best,
Susan
i got pregnant at 40 and had my son when i was 41..took me 3 months to get pregnant..had a normal pregnancy..was a week late and gave birth to a super healthy big boy 10.2 lbs..
He's now just over 3 ..doing great..very happy healthy boy. I took DHA pills every day.
I am not over 40 but I had a baby on my 39th birthday in December and I have another son that is 2 1/2. I don't feel old anywhere I am with the babies and I see more and more "older" moms everywhere I go. I think because of modern technology/infertility treatments, and remarriage we will continue to see more and more older parents. I am glad I had the second baby because I feel like the two siblings will have each other even after we are gone if all goes well. I have two older daughters too.......they are 17 and 19 and are best friends. That was also a huge motivating factor...I have first-hand experience with having two about two years apart and I don't regret it at all.
I was 40 and 42 when I had my last two children. It has been the same with my other children when I carried them,except I was a little heavier. I had gestational diabeties with my firs one and she was breech. My second one, I had no problems with. They are both healthy and have no problems except they both wear glasses. No problems in the pregnancy really with either one of them. They were both term and I had no special tests with them.
Jessie
I'm 41 and pregnant with my second now, first just turned 3yo. My husband wanted another and although I was perfectly content with one, we tried to conceive for almost a year and gave up about June of last year. This baby was a total surprise, then! I'm thinking I may just have forgotten how intense the fatigue is and the first couple months of morning sickness were not fun (especially with my son checking the toilet and asking if I had "spit out that baby yet?" lol). However, now that I've gotten past the worst of the physical aspects and gotten all clear results on my test results, I am nothing but excited, my husband ecstatic, and my son baby-crazy.
Personally, the biggest difference from last pregnancy was the complacency that I could handle anything: With my first son, even though I was already 38, my husband and I opted against all but the most basic of prenatal testing. We decided that we could and would deal with any complications, together. Adding a couple years and, more importantly, a third life that would be affected by such an altruistic approach has drastically changed my attitude this pregnancy.
All I can say is thank God everything is right on course for us to welcome another healthy baby boy into our family in September!
My only advice would be to discuss and make decisions early regarding possible problems and even the simple issues such as how your home would be rearranged if you have a little girl vs another boy.
Go for it INGRID, If thats what you really want, do it. I had my last one at 36 & my dr told me I would be too old after that to have any more, I shouldnt have listened to him. as long as you are healthy go for it. good luck & god bless.
Dear Ingrid,
I was 40 when we conceived naturally, after trying with my (11 years older) husband for 3 years, and 41 3/4 when I gave birth to my son, who is all healthy and happy. I had no complications during the pregnancy, was very active traveling and still working, and enjoyed that time, no morning sickness, no back pain. I kept hiking and swimming, and reading :-) everything about natural childbirth and attachment parenting, and joined La Leche League, a wonderful warm support system for expecting moms and moms of young children.
If you are in good health, and enjoy being a mother, I would say that you will have no problems. 50 is the new 40.
Loving more naturally,
Claudia
Hi. I turned 42 in January. My beautiful, funny and smart son turns 1 on Friday the 8th. I have two other children, 9 1/2 yrs. and nearly 6 yrs. With the last two, I was considered "high risk" because of my age. I took all the tests, did the background on my and my husband's families to see if we were at risk for birth defects, etc... Those can all be very unsettling and even a little scary, but I'm glad they were done. My preg. was just like the other two, and my son is very healthy and "normal". :-) I like being a slightly older mommy. I feel I have a bit more wisdom now than when I was younger, and definitely more patients! I wish you luck and hope everything goes just fine (which I am sure it will). Be sure to begin all your prenatals and the other things to take care of your body and get you ready for the changes it's going to go through.
~Laura
Hi, Ingrid,
I had a child at 40 1/2 and another six weeks before my 42nd birthday. Starting at age 38, my husband and I went through IUI, IVF and a couple rounds of ICSI as well as immune treatment to conceive a child. My first two pregnancies ended in miscarriage. My first live child was conceived through Intracytoplasmic Sperm Injection (ICSI), but my second live child was conceived naturally six months after my first was born. (I was so surprised to discover that I was pregnant that I didn't completely believe that I was going to have another child until I was five months pregnant.) I did not have an amnio during either pregnancy because, before becoming pregnant with both my sons, my husband and I decided to accept whatever we got in terms of children. A few people, including my mother, discouraged me from having kids out of fear of me conceiving children that had genetic conditions such as Down Syndrome. Now, my mother can't get enough of my two kids, who are 2 and 1. I would have preferred to have kids when I was younger (mid-twenties), but better late than never.
Good luck,
Lynne E
Had my first son at 35, second at 37 and third at 40. All healthy babies and great pregnancies. I say, go for it!
You should absolutely try, if that's what you want! I had my daughter at 42 after thinking for years that I'd never have kids. And now, at 46, just gave birth to our son. I did all the testing, just to know what to expect, and everything was perfectly fine w/ both of them. Both were conceived naturally (surprise!)
It's a little odd being the only "old" mom at the play groups and once in a while someone will ask if they're my grandkids, but I wouldn't trade it for anything!
Good Luck
I had my first child at almost 41 years-old. I am a single, working mom, and I am so glad that I had him. I had no problems during the pregnancy, a long labor - but no complications, and I do have the energy and ability to be a good mom to him. I actually think I am a better mom at this age than I could have been at any other age. Age 40 is the new 30! Go for it!
I had no problems getting pregnant at 39 and delivering at 40. Had a wonderful pregnancy and my daughter is almost 4 and super healthy. Go for it, if that's your heart's desire! Remember, the glass half full, you are ONLY ;) 40!
Have fun trying!
PS find a doctor who's supportive of your pregnancy. Do all the exams required. Plan ahead with you husband if complications arise, just like you would in ANY pregnancy at any age, but you're wiser now ;)
had my last girl @ 40...no regrets, I gained a little too much wt, tho...but otherwise, fine!! good luck
Hi Ingrid! I am a mom who had a baby after 40. In fact I had my first child at age 38 and second at 41 so I was a high risk older mom both prgnancies. The second time I had a harder time getting pregant, but the pregnancy was same. There were some problems but nothing major, I had the gestianol diabetes and had to watch my diet and ankle swelling but that was not bad. I had a beautiful baby girl that I wouldn't trade for the world. She just turned 8 2 weeks ago and is still my joy.
Hello Ingrid...I had my first child when I was 40 & I am now 45. I never wanted kids until I met my husband. NOW, please take my experience in stride. There is a name for women over 38 called AMA, (Advanced Maternal Age), YIKES! I had an amnio done & thankfully, my son, Robert is a healthy, smart & awesome kid! Well, as for me, I had pre-eclampsia & I was a swollen mass of fluid. I had a tough pregnancy but it was so worth it!! I was not bed ridden, but they had to deliver him 6 weeks early & I was no where near dilated. Labor was long & tough, (3 days) but he is perfect. He was in NICU for 10 days & it was a blessing. I would not have changed anything for the world, because Robert is an amazing boy. NOW, here is the funny part, (not funny when it happened, but funny now)....I had to stay in the hospital for 4 days because of my very high blood pressure. They was a nurse who had a very strong accent. I had to get weighed at least 2 times a day (it sucked to no end!!) Well, this nurse, weighed me for the 1st time & she says very loud, "BOY, YOU FAT!" My mouth dropped. I was so depressed as I was still a swollen mass of fluid. Anyway...I got over it as soon as I held my beautiful baby boy & because I looked at the source from where the insult came from. This nurse hardly spoke english & she had no idea how to talk to patients....I can not have any more kids now, & even if I could, I would not as I am 45 years old & for me, it would be selfish on my part. Having kids at 40 is a great age, as you have more experience & we are smarter...LOL...
Good luck with your pregnancy & be happy. NO STRESS ALLOWED WHEN YOU ARE PREGNANT!! Looking forward to hearing from you again!
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Hi Ingrid,
Having a baby after 40 is really no big deal. I'm a late bloomer, having my first child, a son at 35, my second son at 37 and my last, a baby girl at 40. I was healthy and really taking good care of myself. My only complaint was, it does get a little hard when you are at your last trimester, but it was because I was chasing after 2 toddlers. I wanted a little girl so badly and was willing to give it another try if the 3rd was a boy, even if I was pass the 40+ age.
As you get older, it is hard to get rid of the pregnancy weight. I've been carrying an extra 8 pounds from my 3 pregnancies and I've found out it is harder to loose those weights as you get older.
For me, having a baby after 40 is no big deal. If financially you can afford to having another child, go for it.
Good luck!
I had my first (and only!) at 41. The only difficulty was getting pregnant, but the whole pregnancy was a piece of cake! (well, except for the heartburn!) Go for it and good luck!
I had an oops at 40. and it's hard. but, awsome. For me, I was really monitored by the Dr because of my age. I had more untrasounds than before (and my 2nd I had at 36) There were a few scares, anemia, and a heart thing. But, everything was just fine. I didn't even tell people I was pregnant until after the amnio. there is an increased risk of downs, and I'd suggest just thinking about what you would do if that were the case. Good luck.