I don't check my inbox all that often, especially since the number of legitimate questions is so small. Most of us who've been members for a long time learned that there's no way to clean out that inbox and reduce the number of "flowers" sent for liking someone else's answer.
I happened to check my inbox after seeing another obscene answer from a troll who hadn't made too much noise lately, and sure enough, there was a message/friend request from that person(filled with the usual obscenities). I ignored it, of course. I checked again the other day, and noticed I have a flower from a legit member on 2/27, and then a big gap with flowers and said message removed. The last flower was on 2/12, then nothing visible until 2/27.
At first I thought that a moderator had reappeared and actually stepped in to deal with violations of the site's terms and conditions, although why innocuous flowers would be removed along with a bogus message, I can't imagine. And prior messages of hate and violence were still there, so I'm now wondering if there was some sort of glitch not controlled by a human. Just curious if any other real Mama members are seeing anything.
Hmmm, now that you mention it, I don’t see any flowers sent or received from me since the start of February. I’m pretty sure I did at least send something, so maybe I have lost some messages/etc too. Weird. Ah well, the fate of electronic data…
I haven’t had any messages since early 2023, but noticed a weird one from someone asking if I would step on his stomach with my bare feet…gross. First time I see that message. I also noticed a mom responded to a message I had sent to her, but I never noticed she responded until now. Other than that, I see flowers consecutively for every month I checked. That’s not to say none got deleted, but I didn’t see anything that looked too unusual. It doesn’t seem we have any moderators yet, it’s been a while since I saw someone monitoring and removing inappropriate messages, so I wonder who is paying to “keep the lights on.”
I’m so sorry you’ve received awful messages! I haven’t had any flowers since January, but I don’t think I’ve posted much either. Sad what has happened to this site.