I don't know how to fix our marriage

So here’s the thing, Many of you don’t understand what I was asking in this post, and MOST of you assumed that I am this horrible whack job mother sleeping all day long while my daughter is playing with dirty diapers. SHE sleeps in until about 11:30, so thats not the case. I am lucky that she does. I also have SCHOOL at night, so I am not the one letting her watch tv all night. I did clean my bathroom SPOTLESS yesterday, and I mean every part of it, I scrubbed the tiles in the shower from top to bottom, I did the wood work over the closet door because it was dusty, I cleaned that bathroom for three hours yesterday while madison was sleeping, and he didn’t say a damn thing to me. I also did the dishes which were in need of being done. not one word. We tried to do something together on our own yesterday. We went shooting at his base. On the way there HE asked me what was wrong and said now that we are all alone and can talk, what is wrong with me. I told him that I was sick of the things that I do get done around the house and go unnoticed, when they are drastically different, and I also told him that I am sick to death of cleaning and then the next day bam, another sink full of dishes. I told him that I appreciate the things that he does do, but I really need a little help with the support I get. And that I shouldn’t have to clean up after him like a teenager. he is a grown man and he should clean up after himself. I told him that I feel like he hates me all the time lately. and he says that that isn’t true. I am just a bitch. and he gets put into my moods by being around it. (which I understand because that’s how I am with his moods) anyways, nothing is fixed, but we did talk so thats good I guess. And I haven’t updated my about me section, so I didn’t contradict myself, and I am not in denial, but we are having problems right now… So thank you to all of you who understood what I was saying and gave me fair or good advice. I have sent those people flowers.