i would like support and to be able to share experiences as i care for my elderly parents.
I was very lucky to be able to care for my elder mom and dad. I don't have advice about working, other than spend as much time with them as possible. I had always said that my parents were like 2 peas in a pod and that if and when I lost one, I would lose the other one withen 6 mos. I did. Mom died first and then Dad 6 months to the day. I can not tell you how rewarding it was being there for my folks..doctors appointments, shopping, helping around the house, and talking a lot. Dad had dememtia, but he always knew Mom and Me. But it was hard on Mom as she was his main caregiver. After Mom passed I became his main caregiver (love giver) he was in a loving group home with 7 other elders and a great staff. What he liked to do is sit with me or walk slowly with me and sing the old songs from the 30s and 40s. We would just hold hands and sing..and sometimes we would talk about the old days ( on his good days). I was by his side when he passed and I was able to say all the loving things I wanted him to hear...what a wonderful dad he was, how he had always been there for me and my children..how honorable he was, how fair and loving. That is an experience I will never forget. Dena
Hi Sam,
I am not sure what is going on with your parents' healthwise, but if there is any sort of dementia, I recommend contacting the Alzheimer's Association. Since you have experience in the mental health field, you may have already reached out to them. If not, I suggest calling their 24/7 800 number: 800-272-3900.
Best of luck,
Lisa