My seven year old son is constantly saying "What did you say?" or "I didn't hear you". He also repeats what he thought he heard and it is often incorrect(and almost always has a negative message). I have had his hearing tested and I have had him tested for ADHD and other possible behavioral issues (which were all negative). Has anyone had this experience? I am wondering if he has a speech processing disorder which causes him to not understand what is being said to him. He has also remarked to me that his best friend talked so much he couldn't understand him. He is above average in math and just a little below in reading and average in spelling. I am worried that if I don't do something about this, it will be an issue for him for the rest of his life.
Hi Roberta
I have a 3 year old daughter who just before the age of 2 years was diagnosed speech delay...I always questioned with her therapists is something else causing the speech delay. She started special ed school last sept. Again I questioned what is causing the speech delay. Something told me the speech delay was the end result of something else. Last week in discussing it with her speech therapist and teachers she is not processing what is being said. Her speech has come along way but something still isn't right. Now that I have explained that...I have the same problem. Someone can say something to me everyone else gets it...I don't or the way they say it, it will have a different meaning. They can change 2 words in the same sentence around ....and then it makes perfect sense...I've learned to say I don't understand. Or explain it again...I would ask your son when this happens shall I explain it a different way or give him an example. See if he can give you an example..I've learned thru my daughters therapy that her and I just process what we hear differently. Just a side note..the way I look at life situations are black and while..very rarely grey..I have close friends that I will say to them show me the grey...Ask him simple questions like, how do you feel about say bedtime...or food that he doesn't like. Is he very adiment about his anwser. does he disagree with you and really doesn't see your side...This might give you an insight to the way he processes infomation or thinks and hears.
If this doesn't work or give insight I'd ask your pediatrition.
Denise
See if his school can get him an "across the board" testing. Check to see if your "health plan" has a school or learning disability "area" in the pysch/soc dept for "complete" testing. It does sound like he has some kind of "processing disorder."
Best of luck,
Kay B
Have you had him tested by your school? If he attends a public school, request an assessment at that school. If he's at a private school he can still get an assessment at your local public school, but is not eligible for services there. At least you will get some answers. It's 60 days til he's assessed once the plan is signed so best to do it asap. Good luck.
I do the same thing. Its not that I didn't hear what was said; my brain just doesn't process things as quickly as my ears do sometimes. I was diagnosed with ADHD a little over a year ago, and I have read that that is a common symptom of ADHD. Not saying he has that, but maybe get a 2nd opinion?? I don't know how they tested him for that, but there is one test that many psychiatrists swear by. I can't remember the name of it, but the problem with that is that some ADHD people actually do better with it, since it is such a controlled test and it is almost fun in a way; and controlled environments, time limits, things that are very structured are actually treatment for ADHD, so the test often produces false negatives. Othat than that, it may just be normal 7 year old behavior. I'm not sure where you have taken him to be tested, but if you haven't already you may want to consider a pediatric psychiatrist. Pediatricians are fabulous-I couldn't live without mine- but their specialty is in pediatric medicine, and psychiatry is a very huge field that they often have limited knowledge of.
My daughter is age 6.5 and she does the same thing, but is well above average in reading and math. I don't think it's a cognitive function, it's probably a matter of child development/stage. They are just so into what they are processing at the moment that they don't register the information. My daughter often interupts me, and often says "let's talk about me." Part of the problem may just be the self-focus of the age.
If you're still concerned, speak to his teacher and indicate your concerns. It's always good to have another view of the situation.
I am a Speech-language therapist and I would request to have your son evaluated by the Speech therapist at your son's school. From the information you shared he fits the description of a child with language processing difficulties.
good luck and be persistent!
My son has a processing disorder and he is an Audio learner. With this disability you can be either an Audio or a Visual learner. Your son may be a Visual learner. My son can not clearly interpret from seeing written material but can clearly interpret from hearing something. You need to be sure that your school fully tests him through the School Psychologist. I will assume that you are in California and the law is that if you demand/request testing the school has 50 calendar days to comply. If you have him completely and fully tested you will get to the bottom of the problem and then you can have the school work on the issue specifically. I work for LAUSD so I know the laws and procedures. Good Luck.
I am a mother with two sons (6 and 12) and a teacher. I own a tutoring company and see this periodically (esp. with boys) At this point, maybe you should think about working on his 'listening skills' and do some one-on-one work with him in this area. It is a skill that he needs to develop, as listening is a crucial component to classroom learning. Barring any other problems (like hearing, which you have had tested), focusing on listening skils would benefit him for the long run. - Nathalie ([email protected])
- Nathalie
I have 3 girls and then a boy. Whole new world!! They don't hear things the way you say them, and they often do not understand them when they do hear them. I hope he will outgrow it, but then again I always nag my husband over the same thing!
Hi Roberta,
Actually, my grand daughter, who is now 14 almost 15, has this problem. She repeats back just what she thinks she heard said, just as you have described. We live in Southern California, and had gotten her an appointment with the County School Audiologist, who ran a complete diagnostic hearing test on her. It was discovered that she had a measureable hearing loss in one ear, which causes a problem with information being received to the brain in a straight forward way. We also had the same type of hearing test done at our HMO, and the findings were comparable. It isn't something that would require her to wear a hearing aid, though. She has ADHD, which she no longer takes medication for, and her school is aware of the issue. It is just important for her to sit in the front of the class room nearest to the teacher, so that she can have the best opportunity to hear what is being said. Good luck.
Try researching a disorder called audio perception disorder, which can sometimes be accompanied by visual perception disorder. I suffer from both along with ADHD. Meaning that things I hear and see do not get processed properly in my head often resulting in the exact problem you are having with your son. It has taken years of therapy and patience, but I am a finely functioning adult with a steady job today. Not saying he has this mind you, just something for you to look into. :) Good luck
If you think it is a processing problem, I would take him to Lindamood or a learning center where they will test your son and see how he is processing. My friend had her child and herself tested and they did see that there were processing issues. Then the center will give you a plan of action based on your results. I think you did say they tested his hearing. His ears are full of fluid are they. That would affect his hearing and speech.
Hi. My son os on second grade and we just had the school do some testing and they found that he has an auditory processing problem. They were able to give me some tools to help him get through it. He too is very good at math but struggles in a lot of other areas. If he is in school, tell them you want him tested for processing and see what they say.
Elisha
Dear Roberta C.
I have a boy that showed those symptoms and I went through the same process, first thinking it was his ears, ADD, etc. The best thing you can do is have him tested for auditory processing difficulties as soon as you can. The hardest thing about this disorder is the impatience people show towards the child which make them feel badly. It is so helpful to know what the exact difficulty is especially for the teachers who usually give all directions orally. Once it was clear my son had this difficulty we all were given tools to make sure he "heard" what we were saying to him. The school should be able to set up the screening for him. My Boy is now 24 years old and had done very well in school, life etc but knowing this made his coping skills and ours a whole lot better.
Hi Roberta;
I have experienced the situation with my two children, one has ADHD and ADD. They have difficulty pronouncing words/letters. I have their pedetrican doctor to check their eyes and hearing, they seems okay. But the teacher recommended to have tested in the school program named Individual Educational Program at any school espcially if his reading and comprehension is not developing. He might have a mild austism or any disability which we don't know. Also you can request from his pedetrician doctor to send a recommendation from his school to have him tested in speech training program. The school won't recommend and say anything to the parents unless the doctor recommended it. We as a mother, we spend so much time with our children and we know if thing are not right. We have to do something for our child because no one else will care and take care of our child except ourself. I raised four children. My 25 yrs old is married and had daughter of 17 mths old , my 21 yrs son lived in NY and studied Game and Video Designer and that's the one who has ADHD but refused to take medication but he is very talented in Art. He is doing fine and doing well in school expecially he loved art so much that I challenged him to study art. I have 16 yrs old daughter who is also talented and already in Junior College and has a problem because I have her tested that one of her vein tha carry the message when you ask her to do is not working. I have to tell her 3/4 times before she will response but very bright daughter, she also played 5 musical instruments, she is also put in Gifted Child Program which recognized by the teacher and recommended to be tested in school. My 14 yrs old son is freshman in high school and played 5 musical instruments also. Your son seems to be talented but check it out because they might have some disability which you would like to help him now before he goes to higher grades. Good luck.
Anna
This might be a little basic, but has your doctor looked in his ears? My daughter is just 2 1/2 and we recently took her in as she has an ear infection. However, her ear was so filled with wax that the doctor could barely see in there. Have you tried those drops, or even peroxide in his ears, to make sure there is no wax buildup? It's just an idea, but you never know if it might be that simple as that. Some people produce alot more wax, and that might be impeding his hearing. It might be worth a try!
Roberta- you may want to have your son tested for Auditory Processing Disorder. From what I understand this is a disorder where folks have a difficult time with listening skills and processing language. My husband suffers from it and we recently went through some preliminary testing with our 3 year old. Apparently this disorder begins manifesting itself around the age of you son. You may want to contact your school & pediatrician to see about having a county assessment for speech and hearing as a starting place. It may be that your son needs some speech therapy. Like your son my husband excels in math and does not read well- he has dislexia on top of it the APD. You can find information on Auditory Processing Disorder on line. Hang in there- the good new is he has already tested negative for behaviorial issues and has good hearing. I'm sure you can work with him and keep him where he needs to be in terms of learning with the right diagnosis and support team.
Tina
HI Roberta:
It sounds like an occupational therapy assessment might be in order to rule out a possible auditory processing issue. You may also wish to consider a speech therapy evaluation to rule out a receptive language problem. If those come back negative, you could pursue psychological/psychoeducational assessment to determine the possible presence of a language-based learning disability. You are definitely on top of things-nice catch Mom! All the best.
Roberta,
If you are concerned over any developmental, or processing, or learning disorders, you should request an IEP through the school. That is an Individualized Educational Plan. The process for doing this in theory is simple. You often have to stay on top of your school to be sure that they meet the legal time lines, but it is a worthwhile endeavor. When you request an IEP meeting you have to do it in writing. So you would give a letter to the School counselor and express your concerns. (It is a good idea to talk with your sons teacher before you submit your letter and site any similarities that he or she notices in you letter as well.) The school will call you and set up an initial meeting. This meeting will include you, the teacher, the resource teacher and the school psychologist.Sometimes the principal is invited. The psychologist and teacher will let you know that they have 45 days to evaluate your son and report back to you. (Take a calendar and mark the 45th day from your meeting while you are sitting there. This will let them know that you expect to sit down together before that date.) During the meeting you will discuss what types of testing they will do for your son. If you think they are missing anything, bring it to their attention and request that they test for those things as well. They will write this on a form. Make sure everything is there before you sign the form. This is important. Following the testing, they will sit down with you and your husband and give you an accounting of what they have found. They will make recommendations according to their findings. These recommendations will include things like speech therapy, resource classes, assistance with tests, or if it is severe enough you can request that he have an aid in the classroom with him to be sure that he is understanding the material he is being taught.You will then sign another form which will actually be his educational plan and you will have two meetings per year to see that he is progressing according to the goals that you and the staff set for him.. These goals will include sucsess at school and home.
If you have concerns you should follow your instinct. IF the school doesn't provide you with answers that are adequate, you can request that you get another opinion from the county psychologist that works for the school. There are many options that you have available to you that you will not be told about because schools don't like to spend the money. They are free to you. They belong to you and you have the right to acess and use them. If you need further assistance please do not hesitate to reach me by private email. I have extensive experience with the special education departments in public schools and am more than happy to help a child get what he needs!