Eliza,
You have to be comfortable with your provider no matter who it is. I would find another group or call and ask to speak to the office manager, let them know your concerns and see if things change if not definatinly change. I had two visits with my ob and said forget it its too stressful and fired him. I now see a lay midwife and she is wonderful. I see her once every 4 wks and can call anytime with a problem and she is there for me. I love her. You could try to find a lay midwife usually through alternative health places is a good place to start. Or find another midwife group. I find most obs have at least one midwife with them sometimes that is better and just ask a few questions before you make a new patient app. Good luck.
If I had been treated that way, I would have switched midwives/doctors. In fact, you still can if you feel that you are not getting the care and attention you deserve. There is no shame in finding a new group (most OB's have midwives as part of their practice). My experience with my OB was pretty positive. There were a couple of questions that I didn't feel were answered as fully as I would have liked. I found the answers I needed for those on babycenter.com Good luck!
I just delivered my first baby Feb 27th at St. Joe's in Nashua and used Full Circle Midwifery and a doula. I found the experience wonderful and quite fulfilling. They let me manage my labor and were open to all my ideas. If you want to hear more about my experience let me know.
-Deb
Hi,
a very good friend of mine is a midwife, and I was so happy to have her there to deliver my 2 babies. Not everybody has that luck.
You still could switch your midwife and go somewhere else. If you do not feel well taken care off, then that is what I recommend.
Have you thought of having a doula? I had a post-partum doula with my first and a labor doula with my second child. This would be a wonderful way for you to get the support you'll need through labor.
BTW, I did not have to pay anything for the doula, it was included in pre-natal care. I guess they had a grant and could offer this. It is always worth asking...
Good luck!
Heidi
I am sorry but there are several things that are concerning about your midwives...they don't seem very empathetic at all. They should be used to new moms having lots of questions and concerns, and be ready to clarify and support the new mom. Waiting to see if you'll get a good one on your delivery day will only cause you stress at such a happy time. My advice is to find people who you are more comgortable with and are willing to be there in all the ways you need them. You need to make sure you have the experience YOU want, not overbearing midwives!
I'm due next week with my first baby and it was very important to find a good fit (both hospital for delivery, and midwife group). I too wanted to be able to listen to my own music, punk metal or whatever I feel at the time of delivery. Mt. Auburn Hospital was the only reputable hospital that allows you to listen to your own music (other than the new age hypnobirth stuff) in the area. I have been to Mt. Auburn for several other unfortunate injuries and they have always treated me really well.
My midwife group delivers there, and they have monthly meet the doctors nights to get to know the other doctors and midwifes that work strictly in the hospital. I love the midwife I signed up with, but she too is a part of a group, all of whom I have met and are cool too, but she is the best, Deb Gowen. I am slightly disappointed I do not know who I will get when that moment comes, but as I said they all seem great and relatable. I have had a pretty easy pregnancy but they found a blood clot problem and set me up with a bunch of Dr appointments to see how bad it was. If they did it through my doctor it would have costed a fortune but they understood it would be free if done via midwife, so they really helped me out that way too.
I HIGHLY recommend them, Please let me know if this is part of the same group you had a problem with just so I know the flip side of my experience. I have recommended them to a few other people in the area who have also really liked their services and felt unjudged.
The Midwives at Mt Auburn
22 Mill St suite 102
Arlington, MA
781-646-1043.
good luck!
good luck!
I know that The Family Birth Center in New Braunfels,Tx.Is well known for gentle care and knowledge of natural chilbirth. Amber Riedel is the best midwife in Texas.
Thank you all SO much for taking the time to share your experiences and wisdom. You can’t imagine how helpful it was to have your support and feedback! The story of course isn’t over yet, but I wanted to let you all know that things are moving in the right direction. I went on some hospital tours /midwife open houses and discovered that the Mt. Auburn hospital in Cambridge has a midwife program that really resonates with me. Additionally–I admit I’m one to be biased by aestetics–I really liked the look and feel of their birthing rooms better than the hospital I was with. There’s more space, bigger windows, more calming/pleasing/simple decor, and including warm wood cabinets. I’m switching there this week. Also, I got my taxes done early and, though my budget is tight, I have decided to use part of my refund to hire a birth doula for extra support. I’m sure there will be some bumps in the road as no place is perfect, but I feel a lot better about my set-up now. Thank you all so much for taking the time to respond to my post! You have really been instrumental in improving my pregnancy.
E.