I really don't know where to begin. I found out about 4 years ago my mom had been sending money to Nigeria since my daughter was born 2 year earlier. When I found out I was only given the tip of the iceberg. I found out because she was trying to con me out of $5000.00 and my grandperents finally told me what was going on.
She has alienated herself from all of her family. She is now no longer invited to family parties. She had the gall to ask my father's brother for money and my father and her had been divorced for 25 years at that point. She first conned her own husband out of $25000.00 by making him think the money was for my brothers' very ill wife. She got a loan from a cousin and wouldn't pay it back so my grandparents paid it off and told all the family if they give her anymore money consider it gone, they would not bail her out again. They have kept their word. Total amount she has sent over there at least $65000.00 probably more. She also took out a home improvement loan on her what was completely paid for house. That my step fahter learned about after the fact.
My oldest brother and I have confronted her about this several times and she just clams up. When I asked her why she was doing it she said it has for her children. We(her children, all of us) said we don't want her to do it.
The FBI calls it the Nigeria 419 fraud.
My step father has not been living at the house with her for about 5 years now he has lived with his very ill parents taking care of them. His father just died July 20th this year. He still works full time at night. He has seperated his accouts from my moms. He is a better man than my mother deserves I would have devorced her by now with everything she has done.
I have e-mailed her websites explaing the scam. I have found free coulseling for her where she lives, she refuses to go. One of my big worries now is she is 62 and collecting social security and sending it over to Nigeria. The other is even though he knows what she will do with the money my grandfather refuses to in any way restric what my mother will inherit when he dies, he is 93 and still of very sound mine and body. My brothers and I would rather our Uncle get it all rather than her to have a penny and squander it away on this scam. I do have proof she is still doing it. I showed it to my grand father.
Her cousin asked why doesn't she just fly to Nigeria and confront these people. Her respone is "I have foud out about people who did that and they didn't come back." So she know what she is doing is wrong.
I reported what was happening to the FBI and they did nothing.
I have tried to list all the major happenings of the problem but, the list is long and drawn out. If anyone has any experience dealing with this please let me know what you did to stop it, or if you know someone who knows how to stop it. I live in Hillsboro (Portland) and my mother lives in Renton (Seattle).
I know this is all jumbled but, I am trying to give all the pertinent information. Please help me if you can and yes, I pray daily about it.