Thanks Margie G but to clarify for others, even these 2 girls aren’t nice anymore. Once in a while they are but that’s part of the issue. I do think she’s pretty different than some of the other girls now so it’d be ok if she didn’t talk to them that much. But it stinks the 2 key girls are lukewarm or cold now too.
And B - there competition is about grades and who is taking the harder classes. No one is focused on popularity including me.
Thanks both. I know there’s no easy answer or fix but it’s interesting to hear opinions and experiences. I feel badly for her bc she was in tears this weekend. I do kind of remember I often found friends annoying too at that age and I went through phases with people. Ive told her that…
ok - one more add. I don’t tell her she’s too tall! Or that’s she’s just ok looking! I actually think she’s quite pretty and tell her that but I’m probably biased. I mentioned bc I wonder about the superficial reasons sometimes HS girls focus on to leave someone out. I’ll stand by the telling her not to talk so loudly at times. That can bother people. And why would I want her to brag about her house?.. But thank you for comments. I do tell her she’s a great girl and so many people go through this in HS but it all works out etc. And I believe that. Just the kind of difficulties she had in middle school too make me wonder if I’m missing something I could help her with.
Ok - no more answers needed. She was crying half the weekend and gets in the car everyday and talks and talks about it for weeks but I’ll ignore her for now on and let her deal. Big difference IMO between the encouragement I give her and stories we tell about friend issues my husband and I had to show this is normal and all will work out fine vs asking elsewhere if maybe there’s something I’m missing. I thought asking other adults might shed light.
I do have a job btw Diane. Actually a successful executive. Amazing the assumptions people can make. And perhaps some of my success is from being analytical. And also from not constantly arguing with people.
First and last question. I understand people kindly telling me to try to not analze too much and some answers were helpful like that but some assumptions like I’m petty when the writer has no idea of details, I need a life etc are just mean. I have a hard time seeing my daughter crying and miserable. Horrible mom and person I guess. Bye.