My husband and I are expecting our 2nd child in Feb. and (for the life of us!) cannot agree on ANY names. I really like unique names.. our first born is Caden (turns out - not so unique! very common now). My husband likes more traditional names, plus he's Italian and he'd really love a genuine Italian baby name. Just wondering.. any other moms couldn't agree on a name? Any funny stories? Also, we don't know the sex of our baby.. so we actually have to agree on TWO names before the birth! How many moms actually got to find out the gender??? My first baby was also unknown... I swear I'm the only mommy who doesn't get to find out the gender! I do enjoy the surprise... but it would be nice to plan too!
Added Info: we didn't find out the gender because the baby was in a bad position. it wasn't by choice!!! haha. my husband and i both really wanted to know the sex THIS time (since our first was also bad positioned and a surprise baby).
We are due in just a few weeks and still have not agreed on a name. My hubby and I have completely different tastes. We have agreed to not discuss the "name issue" any more and just wait till the little one comes and name him or her then! Good luck!
I dont have any name suggestions (for boys I always wanted the name nicholas for my child....and that is what my only child is names) but u are not the only one who wants to be suprised. both my sister in law (whose child is 3mnths) and my cousin (who is due and jan) both choose to be suprised
my first one we found out the gender and it was a girl. We named her Ava Marie (my husband is italian also) luckly he liked the name:) We are trying for our second baby so we arent going to find out the sex of that baby. We want a surprise. But we are already thinking of names so girl would be Anna Claire and boy Would either be Roman Ray or Bentley Ray or Mason Ray so we havent set on a boy name just yet. I think its exciting not knowing and waiting until the end:) congrats
I don't have any name suggestions for you, but wanted you to know you are not the only mommy out there who doesn't find out the gender. In fact, I choose to NOT find out with any of my THREE pregnancies. I have 2 girls and a boy.
Haven't conceived number 2 yet, but my Husband and I have already decided the name for a girl. I was in love with the name Braelyn, but he wasn't too into it. So we compromised on Shawna Braelyn.
So maybe have a more traditional Italian name with a Unique middle name? Just a thought.
I didn't find out and don't plan on finding out the next time. My husband wants to know, but he can find out when he has the baby. The only difference I see in planning is buying clothes and by not finding out, I found that my family and friends outfitted my daughter with everything the first 3 months. My husband and I quickly agreed on Sofia for a girl, but the middle name was a battle until the end and the only reason he got his way is because he asked right after my emergency c-section and they I was so drugged up I barely remember. As for boys names, I wanted a junior, he did not and I hated every name he picked. The problem when we have our next one is we never found a boys name and Sofia was the only girls name we liked so if we have another girl who knows. My husband is Bolivian and Sofia is extremely popular in Bolivia. We think with the next one we are going to go with an Irish name since that is my background. We hope to get a no so common Irish name. I didn't realize how popular Sofia was until we picked it.
I've never pre-named a baby. We always knew the sex, but we also made lists of 3-5 names so we could "meet" our child and see which name seemed to fit.
Our third child we knew we were having a boy. We went in with a list of 5 possible names and decided when we met him we would just know which one is right. Well, sure enough he was born and within five minutes my husband was gazing lovingly at his new son and said "He looks like a Joshua." That wasn't even on the hard earned list!! He just met him and knew.
Try not to stress yourself over names. I am 38 weeks and 5 days with our 4th child, another boy, and have NO idea what his name will be. :) You have months to think about it and enjoy the fun of wondering.
My husband and I couldn't really agree on our daughter's name. My husband had a name that I had actually suggested that he fell in love with, and then I had a name he really didn't like. So when she was born, we named her his name because I do like the name, too...but I still kind of regret it. When she was born, I instantly thought she looked like my name fit her...and more so as she grows (she's 4 weeks old now). I kind of have a hard time calling her by his name, even though I do like it, because it just doesn't suit as well. Oh well, my husband really didn't like the name I wanted, so this is probably the best solution. At least he's not wincing as he calls her name.
With my first, you couldn't tell but I carried like a boy (sounds funny but true). I also I had a feeling I would have a boy and I did. With my girl, I carried differently more like a girl. We couldn't tell at first but with later ultrasounds it became easier to predict (couldn't tell at first). Again, I had a feeling and was once again right. Nothing scientific but accurate non the less.
As for names, you are not alone. I like Matthew James or Matthew Charles for a boy and Cheyenne Nicole for a girl. Not italian but nice names anyway. One of my relatives is named Anthony Carmine (pretty italian).
With my son, his dad didn't want a jr until I came up with the name I love (Matthew James) but then decided he did (more of jealousy thing) so I have a Michael Andrew (jr.). We didn't pick a girls name...didn't think I needed one but did decide I liked Cheyenne Nicole.
For my girl, before we knew we were having a girl I immediately reverted to Matthew James but my current husband wanted a jr (I don't like his middle name and said it wasn't an option but it was the middle name of one of his grandfathers). Offered a compromise of Matthew Jason (husband's name is Jason) but he wasn't keen on it. I then offered Matthew Charles (Charles is the middle name of his other grandfather) and we settled on that as a compromise). In my mind, Cheyenne Nicole was the girls name I wanted. He didn't care for it and suggested lots of names all without Cheyenne but some w/ Nicole. I finally agreed to Madison Cheyenne (we call her Cheyenne). With our compromises, MCM would be the babies initials regardless.
My husband and I decided on our names in advance, but we choose unisex names that we would use for either a boy or a girl. Our oldest is Sage, and our younger boy is named Rayne. The only difference is that we would have used the feminine spelling if he had been a girl (Raine).
me and my other half didn't agree on a name with my youngest until he made his presence known. the debate and niether of us could decide was brandon rayne or storm. after 20 hrs of non productive labor and then in 5 minutes he decided it was time I am tired of being here he made a apperance and his dad looked at me and said we definately have to name this baby storm. so storm it was. the deciding factor we agreed on was if he was born while it was raining it would be storm. and if it wasnt it would be brandon rayne. it started raining 10 minutes after he was born :) my first me and his dad agreed on both male and female names before he was born.
what about spring for a girl. My oldest is coalton and it would go good with caden. I am biased though because I liked it. :) tony is an italian name and not used much any more and it is also a tradional name. good luck and happy naming
My husband and I have two boys. We have a list of about 8 girl names-first and middle that we both LOVE and agree on, but it was difficult to come up with a boy name! We decided on using our fathers' first names the first time around, but when we found out the 2nd one was a boy, I thought he would be called "It"! I didn't wind up with my first choice, but now I can't imagine him being anything else. I trotted out a name I liked a lot that hadn't been completely downed before, but he wasn't nuts over. After a few more months he had warmed a bit to it and then became just fine with it! It wasn't easy though.
Just curious -why don't you "get" to find out the gender? YOU are the one carrying the child, so if you want to know -FIND OUT! If your husband really doesn't want to know, don't tell him. I would have gone nuts not finding out!
The first baby was easy, if it was a boy we would name him Mason Alexander and if it was a girl Madeleine Marie. At the 20 week ultrasound we discovered we had Mason Alexander coming.
The second baby was harder to name. We sat on either end of the bed, each with their own baby book (by this time we knew we were having another boy). When we came together to look over the 'top' ten names from each list; not a single one matched. We took Colby from his list and Ryan from mine and our second was named Colby Ryan.
I assumed that when I found out we were pregnant with our third and if she was a girl we would name her Madeleine Marie. But when my husband came home from work after finding out we were pregnant, he asked if we could name her Samantha. So we have a Samantha Marie instead. By the way, the name fits her. She is sooooo a Sami!
You could split the difference and go with a Roman name. (My H is also Italian, and this is what we did). Come to find, there are only 6 people in the country with our son's name... and all of them are elderly.
Roman names are very common in Italy, but very uncommon here.
See if you can find an Italian Baby name book and then use names you like and put an Italian spelling to them.
This is what we did with my son, his middle name is Ayden and the spelling is the Irish spelling. We knew we liked the name, but wanted a cultural spin on it that came from my heritage.
Don't know if you've been to Italy, but you could look at geographical names too as a way to use the culture.
Our first one I wanted to find out but my husband didn't...we did anyway! I figured I am delivering I'll make the decision, plus my husband knows what a planner I am. And of course that means I found out with the second as well, because if it was the opposite gender I wanted to be prepared! As far as Italian names...we had Olivia and Sophia picked out for a girl. For a boy name I like Frankie, Gino or Vince (Vinny).