I have a bit of an unusual question. I was carrying twins and lost one in the 22nd week, it was heartbreaking. The other twin was alive so I had to carry both babies until the surviving one could be safely delivered. Luckily and happily I have a beautiful son who I adore. However, I also love and miss the baby that I lost. By the time I delievered the doctors were unable to tell me the gender of that child that passed away so here comes my problem. I have decided I would like to name the baby and memorialize him/her some how. The issue I am finding a gender neutral name. First, most of them are spelled differently for a boy verses a girl. And second, I would like a first and a middle name. My other two children's names are Stephen George (the twin) and Katherine Lynn so I lean towards the strong traditional names. Does anyone have any suggestions for me? Maybe this isn't as hard as I'm making it seem, it is just such an emotional issue for me.
I am so sorry to hear about your loss. And what you are planning is a beautiful thing. Have you thought of Chris, Gail, Lee, Drew, or how about just naming the baby something very different, like Star or Angel.
Good luck, I am praying for you
I am sorry for your loss. I know what its like to lose a child at 20 weeks.
I'm glad to hear that you have a healthy boy!! May God grant him many happy and healthy years!!!
Can you ask your OB about the lost baby? There is sure to be a note of it on your son's birth certificate - a note that he was a twin and ended up being a single birth.
Tyler is a name that I've seen on both boys and girls
Taylor
These are the only names I can think of right now - sorry - caffeine hasn't kicked in yet!
My best to you - I'm sorry for your loss!
Cheryl
maybe Francis Lee? that is very traditional and gender neutral?
My heart goes out to you. I bet it is HARDER than you make it seem, and I applaud your search for the perfect name for your baby.
The first thing that popped into my mind was Angel. It may not be totally traditional as your other two children, but it can be used for either gender, is very popular in many cultures, and is very fitting in this situation.
Most of the other gender neutral names that I think of aren't totally traditional either, but they are popular now.... here are my initial thoughts...
Alex
Jessie
Riley
Ryan
Very traditional ones might be Chris or Pat, but that would be short for other names.
I hope you find peace and the perfect name!
Kai (K-eye) means "the ocean" and can be a girl or boy name. You could get a beautiful sea shell and plant it under a tree for him/her.
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I cannot think of any traditional gender neutral names. The names that come to mind are; Jessie Morgan, or Madison Quinn
Sorry for the loss of one of your twins and congrats on Stephen. That must have been really hard for your family and I think it is a great idea to do something for your baby.
Alex, Riley, Michael are a couple I can think of right now. You may be able to google unisex names to come up with more. Maybe pick a name with a special meaning you and your family from older family names.
I am sorry for your loss.. My daughter's name is Ryleigh, I have seen it spelled Riley for both boys and girls, also Jessie, Sidney, and Jordan are names I've known both boys and girls to have.
Jamie is another gender neutral name.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Here are a few suggestions:
Taylor
Cameron
Avery
Ryan
That is so sad for you, and so beautiful and sweet to do. Your healty little boy is lucky to have you. I was trying to think of names, but the suggestions that Heidi T. gave put the name Riley Jordan into my head and I couldn't come up with anything that sounded nicer.
Hugs to you in your sad time.
So sorry for your loss and I give you a lot of credit for being able to put this wonderful idea together. Stephen and Katherine are very lucky to have such a loving mommy. The only traditional gender neutral names that I can think of are Dana, Jamie, Lynn, Robin, Sunny, Jordan, Jesse, Taylor, and more recently Ashton, and Logan. Traditional names Aubrey, Stacy, Kelly, Kim and Tracy were neutral names but it depends on how you feel about them. As for a middle first thing that came to my mind was Love. I also like what another poster said about using Angel. What ever you choose I am sure that it will be perfect.
Good Luck and my God grant you continued strength
I'm very sorry about your loss! I lost my first child to prematurity at 23.5 weeks, and we had a birth certificate because she was born alive. We named her the most meaningful, family-connected choices from our list so that she would always be connected to this family.
I've met a lot of loss moms over these six years, and in cases where gender wasn't possible to "know", I think the mother sometimes had strong feelings one way or the other. I would encourage you to just assign gender at this point if you had strong feelings and name accordingly, but if you really didn't have that feeling from your baby, the gender neutral name choices are good. It's easier at a memorial service or the future to say "him" or "her", but go with what you feel on that.
Jaime has always been a favorite of mine, or
Shawn
Shannon
Reese
Chris
And my middle name (and my living daughter's) is Lee, from my dad and all of the men before him in the family.
We also planted a tree on the date my daughter was due and volunteer for the March of Dimes in her honor. Our lives can be changed forever by these tiny people. Best wishes to you in your journey.
Adrian, Ashley, Casey, Jude, Francis [one of the meanings of that name is "free"], Reese, Lee, Jamie and Jessie
I'm so sorry for your loss
Hi Kimberly.
I am so sorry for your loss.
If you knew they had been in the same amniotic sac and shared a placenta, that likely means they were identical and the precious angel you lost is a boy. But since the dr said there was no way of knowing, that leads me to believe they were in separate sacs/ with seperate placentas.
I think if you don't feel strongly about the sex of the child, something special is appropriate (like Angel as other moms have suggested) and maybe have no middle name.
I miscarried one at 12 weeks and one at 7 weeks and I never named them, but a friend lost one at 12 and named it Aiden because to her, that was unisex.
Dakota is also unisex, I don't remember seeing that suggested.
Lee is a good middle for either and doesn't have to be spelled Leigh as female.
Good luck and I wish you peace on your time of happiness and grieving.
I am sorry for your loss, I have had 3 and I tend to refer to them all as Angel...which is gender neutral and at the same time reminds me they are always with me.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I like Casey and Jamie, both mentioned below. Jordan is also a good gender neutral name that is spelled the same way for boys and girls.
Morgan
Reese
Alex
Cory
Robin
Taylor
Terry
oh my i am so sorry for your loss but happy to hear your other baby is healthy.
avery, ashley, adrian, andy, angel, alex , cameron, casey, cassidy, blaire, brent, corey, dana , dallas, devon, dyllan, erin, evan, harley, haiden, hayden, hunter, haley, jesse, jaden, joran, julian, jamie, jan, jude, kelly, kelsey, kendal, kennedy, kerry, lee, leselie, lane, lindsey, logan, morgan, madison,marley, micah, noel, paris, parker, perry , peytom, quinn, reegan, reese, riley, robin, reed, rene, sydney, scout, skye, skylar, stacey, sunny, sean, shane, sage, taylor, terry, tory, tyler, tony, tracey, whitney, winnie, zane..
hoefully i helped some and good luck
I'm so sorry for your terrible loss. I had 3 miscarriages, too early to tell the gender, but we also named them. It helps with the healing process. Here are some names that might work: Casey, Corey, Jackie, Jamie, Kerry, Christian, Loren, Ashton, Jessie, Kelly, Leslie, Adrian, Alex, Devon, Jordan, Robin, Micah, Randy, Riley, Taylor, Shawn, Cody, Rene'. God Bless.