I say let your friends serve you. They want to do something for you and this would be fun!
I just had my second in May and two of my friends threw my a full shower for her. I don't know if it was because my first is a boy and I was having a girl but, I would say don't feel guilty about your friend wanting to give you a shower. I know lots of people who have had a shower for their 2nd-in fact, I threw one for one of my good friends-and she was having her second girl! Friends and family who love you will not be offended, they will be happy to celebrate this new life. If you feel weird registering for gifts-don't register anywhere. That's what gift reciepts are for. Like you said, this has been a difficult pregnancy for you and why not celebrate her soon to be birth?!
A shower is about celebrating the impending arrival of a new baby with family and friends. It's not about getting gifts. There is nothing wrong with wanting to celebrate your second child. I do think the "diaper party" idea is great. You can never have enough diapers!
Go for it!
I had a shower with my second baby. Mainly because she was a girl and our first was a boy. We did not have a friends shower with him since I was getting all my sisters stuff. So they did a nice one for her and she was well dressed and diapered for her first few months.
Showers are also just a fun thing for friends to do to celebrate with you that you are having a baby, so just enjoy it and graciously thank them. ;-)
I think that diaper showers are neat, and it doesn't matter how many babies you have, because you will always need diapers and wipers.
I have twin boys and I always wanted a diaper shower it's a great idea and the whole point of a baby shower is to celebrate the baby and get things you need for the new baby....It may sound a little out of the ordinary but believe me lots of people are doing it or the woman is having a baby shower with the women and the man has a diaper shower with the men since men aren't usually too good at picking out presents and thus making it easier on them...Thats another way you could consider doing the whole diaper shower is letting your husband have a little shower like thing with the men....I have lots of friends who felt the same way as you and the husbands are doing the diaper showers....Just another way you could think about...Congratualtions on the new baby coming and good luck to you....
First I have always believed that every child needs to be celebrated. Plus a diaper party is the best way since you most likely already have what you need. You don't have to feel weird even though we all do when our 2nd one comes around. But enjoy it and let them give you the shower. Remember you are only pregnant with you 2nd child only once in your life let someone shower you with....Diapers.
Congratulations!!!
I hadn't heard this whole etiquette issue with the second pregnancy til recently and it was actaully quite shocking to me. I think that baby showers are a celebration of a new birth that is going to take place more than anything and also to help out the new mom so the finanacial burden doesnt hit her like a stone! With my second I did have a shower because my first was a girl and my second was a boy so I had nothing for boys!:) I didnt register anything huge just mostly clothes, boy blankets, boy diaper bag, etc. I did register a few things that were costly like the bed set(because a few people told me ahead of time they wanted to go in together and get me that) and a couple things I dint get with my daughter like a bouncer($30),but nothing that was really expensive. So mostly it was a clothes and diaper shower. I definetly think you should have something even though you are having a girl all over again. Are you not supposed to be excited about a new child because it isn't your first! Heck no!:) Will you not celebrate her birthdays only your first? Of course not! I think the people that came up with this etiquette thing were all born in 1902 and dont live in the high paced society we do now. Not that I think that some etiquette shoudn't be restored to our society that is plumiting down hill quickly in most areas(i.e. cuss words on regualer tv) but this is one that needs to be thrown out in the trash! Have a diaper shower because we all know that no matter if the child is 2nd or 13th, they all pee and poop a ton!:) I hope this helps.
Perfectly accepted now days. You are going to have friends and family that want to get you something. It would be much better to receive something useful. I know when I have a friend that is pregnant I would much rather know exactly what she wants. It is not preceived as being rude.
TK
I think it's a great idea! The ladies at my church gave me a diaper shower for my # 2, 3 and 4, and the diapers lasted more than 6 months. My last one is 8 months old now, and I am still using the diapers from the shower. In my opinion, if someone disagrees with the idea, they don't have to participate, but it gives the ones who want to help you along on your way a chance to do it and share the birth of your new baby with you in an easy and practical way. I have been on the other side of this party as well, and I loved just getting together with other moms to celebrate something we all have in common. It only cost me $15 dollars or so, it it helps the new mom out so much. Just make sure you still send out your thank you cards, and have fun!
Girl, Who cares about what people "think" your second baby deserves just as much celebration as the first and 4 years apart is fine to have a true shower. Most people have gottenrid of everything from the first one already and you may need things the other baby did not have. Go for it... have a big bash! you only live once remember!
Good luck, April J
Ok I did not read your other "30" answers , wow what a response your getting! But MY opinion is this: A new baby is a good reason to celebrate.....I don't care if it's your 1st, 2nd, 15th (God forbid : ) but it's a reason for a party and celebration. A new baby on the way is one of the most wonderful things we have to look forward to in this world so I say CELEBRATE!
On my 2nd baby we did have a diaper shower and I did not buy diapers for the first 3 months ( a little added bonus to the celebration).
Have a wonderful time and best wishes on your new little one.
Melinda
If your friend wants to do this, let her and enjoy the help. My first child was a son, and my second was a girl. I was given several showers for both, boy stuff first, and girl stuff second. With the arrival of our third child, a girl, I already had everything and then some, but my friends wanted to do a shower. They threw a diaper/gift card shower. I got alot of diapers, and some great gift cards, some to HEB, Wal-mart, and BabysRUs. It was nice to be able to replace some worn things, and get a few nice new things for our second girl. Enjoy your pregnancy.
Emily
Enjoy this gathering of friends to celebrate your upcoming birth!!! Women need this time together. Enjoy!
When I had my second baby I was a little weird about having another shower at first, and when I looked up the etiquette almost everything I read said that you SHOULD have a second shower. Every baby is special, and there is nothing wrong with throwing a party to celebrate a second child. I plan on celebrating every one of my children! A diaper party is great if you don't mind using multiple brands of diapers....I opted not to have one because I only use a specific kind, and I didn't really have room to store all those diapers at once. My friend had a diaper shower for her daughter and the boxes took up half her bedroom for months! Since people knew I was having a second, no one really bothered with the big stuff, just clothes. So, have your showers, enjoy yourself, and celebrate the next new blessing in your life!
Hello,
Don't worry! I had the same shower for my second child. It is not wrong to have a diaper shower at all. I would do it because I am sure that your close friends love you and be happy to come to your shower.
I don't see any problem with having a party for the second child on the way! After all, the expenses go way up with a second child, I think it is totally acceptable. I would want to buy new cute outfits for friends second baby, as well as diapers!
I have a 5 year old girl and a baby boy due in Feb. I wondered the same thing. According to everything I have looked up it is absolutly fine to have a full shower for the new baby. The only definate no-no is throwing one for yourself. Have the shower and have fun!
Alyson,
I don't know how anyone else feels but I think it's great. Especially since your friend wants to do it for you.
I felt the same way as you when my friend was so attement about giving me one when I was pregnant with #3&4 (twins). We made it very clear that it was a diaper shower.
The way it was told to me and why I finally agreed to it was, it's a shower to celebrate you and your new little one. And yes, you're not registering and with the wording on invitations it can be a lot of fun.
Good luck,
Melynda
Go for it!!! Every baby deserves a party!